Children used to lying, they lie sometimes feels so funny. But there is also a lie that is morally categorized as a negative behavior. They lie for a variety of reasons:
Lying to protect a friend
Anto told his mother that he had spent all of the cake in a cake box. Though she split with some friends. He worried that if they are not shared, he would not have lent the play station.
Lying because it mimics a parent
Children should see their parents lie, for example if there a beggars asking for alms. “Said wrote, again there’s no money!” And he knew his father and mother still save some money. Two things to note in this example is the first child to know that his parents were lying. Second, parents send children to lie to others. It is an example that is not good, then tell the child to do so. What a bad attitude. This attitude does not teach children to appreciate the honesty.
Lying to avoid something
Kids obviously do not deny anything he actually did. Perhaps he deliberately lied and made up a story to avoid punishment for transgression. Parents should try to evaluate yourself as the child may be trying to avoid punishment which may often be applied to the elderly. Or maybe because the child menghinari criticism or ridicule that might received when he made a mistake.
Lying to fantasize at a certain age
Children develop the ability to think abstractly, usually around the age of 4 years. Suddenly the boy started to tell me that he saw a monster, a fairy, or other things that make no sense. This means that children develop the ability to imagine. This capability is important because children need to have the ability to think abstractly.
Kick-facing child lying:
As parents we are required to be wise. When we have children we should not lie directly angry, hearing children with a variety of concepts of sin and hell. Or tell the story of Goat Shepherd and the Wolf. A story with a moral honesty that children do not lie. Should do the approach to the child with care and friendly.
Find out the true child is lying and why he lied. No need to be angry, to be probing, judgmental or threatening. If children feel threatened, other times he will not admit, even to try to make up another lie.
If the child is lying, give sense to the child that the behavior is not favored to deceive and can be bad for him and others.
Hoaxes are not aimed not need to be negative punishment. For example, because children are fantasizing. At a certain age the child is very busy with his world of imagination, sometimes he can not tell which is real what is not real. For example, if she tells him the angel who flew into the sky.
New penalty is given if the levels and effects lies really badly. But do not punish with corporal punishment. Give punishment that educate as social punishment, or to cut some kids facilities. For example, by imposing a ban on watching a favorite television show or give the task of cleaning the bedroom.
Lying in children can be reduced to strengthen the relationship between parents and children. If the child close to the parent, it will be more open so there is a sense of mutual trust and respect. So, take our time with the kids.
Channel your child’s creativity and imagination skills for positive activities. For example, acting, writing stories, drawing freely and others.