Fighting is an activity that has become routine for most teenagers. Lots of junior high school students reported that A attacks B and junior high school students and many more other news.
So, what exactly causes these fights? Is it a problem that is so large that it makes the students did not hesitate to do the fighting and attacking each other.
Keeping children not to fight real easy, all it takes is an understanding to the children about some of the understanding that is often misunderstood by most teenagers.
In addition it can also be a spiritual debriefing control teenager from things that are not good. Well, we just discussed Comprehension question:
1. An understanding of the “Cool Kids” at school
Many interpret that is the coolest kid in school is a child who likes to fight, always showing violent and feared by everyone in the school.
This makes children want to be part of the cool kids and be his friend, or your child may also intends to be a cool kid. Which oddly enough, the cool kids in school always get what is his wish, as the award of his friends, and the most beautiful girl in school.
It motivates him to spit power by violent means to get predicate cool kids in school. One of them is by participating as a show of force brawl.
Therefore, give an explanation of what is meant by the cool kids at school. True that the cool kids are school children disciplined, diligent and get the achievement a good lesson, so he prefers to be the cool kids who excel
than being cool kids are sloppy.
2. Understanding wrong about solidarity
The second thing that is often the cause of the fighting is wrong with the child’s understanding of the meaning of solidarity. Solidarity in adolescence is very high, so that when there is a friend who was hit by a kid from another school, then immediately reward his friends in the group, without knowing in advance what the actual
problems that make it struck her.
This is what you instill the importance of understanding the true solidarity. Tell that solidarity is indeed nice, but should be considered first and in the know first, who should be defended, and the problem of what to strive for.
3. An understanding of the self-esteem
Just before the brawl, children who are ready to invite friends to the others. Among his invitation, there is a derogatory word for people who do not want to come, as the word “bencong basic,” “basic monkey”, “coward” and other words that seem insulting.
Children who feel these words to make him fall in prices, do not accept and opted to follow his friend to join the brawl speech. Indeed, at first did not want to come, but because his pride would not humbled at last he was forced to join bandwagon.
Keeping children can be taught not to fight the teacher or parent that self-esteem can not be a big shot or just a brawl. By knowing the various causes early child brawl, you can find ways and tricks on how to keep the children not to fight.
In addition, you can keep the children not to fight the way tightened schedule, say after school should go home quickly. And even if there is a need, must be clear about what it will do.